Dear Destiny,

Lately, I feel like my best friend and I are drifting apart. We used to hang out all the time, but now she’s always busy, and when we do talk, it feels… different. I don’t know if I did something wrong or if we’re just growing apart, but it makes me really sad. Should I talk to her about it, or just let things happen naturally? I don’t want to lose her, but I also don’t want to be the only one trying.

Sincerely,
Afraid of Losing My Bestie

Dear Afraid of Losing My Bestie,

I know what you are going through! This actually happened to me recently, but I was the busier one. Getting distant from your friends really sucks, so I am here to help you. There are two different courses of action you can take like you said yourself. Confront them or let nature take its course.

Personally, I suggest sitting them down and talking it out. Find out why they are so distant and what is wrong. This is your best course of action. Being able to sit down and talk with them is not only great communication, which will help build a stronger bond between you two, but you can understand what your friend may be doing or struggling with that makes them so busy.

The other course of actions you can take, but I do not suggest is letting nature do its thing. Doing this can go one of two ways. You two stay distant and barely take anymore, which is not what we want. Or after your friend is no longer busy, they will reach out again. It really depends on your friend. But if you do decide to take this route, check in on them! Make sure they know you are there for them.

I hope you take my advice and are able to reconnect with your friend. I know everyone wants a friend in their life. 

XOXO, Destiny